Well, Hi!!! It’s been a hot minute; I just have not felt like writing, but a lot has happened in the last month. Today is the 25th of February and let me tell you a work that I would use to describe the last month….it is the word miracle
I went to the dentist and my teeth are doing good. I am so grateful because with my history of purging my food, I felt like my teeth were going to be horrible but they have fared well and its just a miracle.
I met up with two friends that I met while we were living in Rexburg; we went to a restaurant in Idaho Falls that I had seen while driving but never been to. It reminded me of a place that I went to the last time I was in Florida. It ended up being the same kind of concept, but it didn’t taste as good. I felt bad because I was the one to suggest the place, but it was more the company than the food that made the lunch fun. We are going to try and meet up a couple times a year.
My nephew, who has been living with my brother and his wife in Rexburg was able to submit his mission papers and his mission call is a miracle; there were some hiccups and on the day he was suppose to get it, we prayed so much and it came. He is going to Cameroon and speaking French. We had to look up where it was, I thought when he first said it, the mission was in the Asia area, but no, it’s a country in Africa. Its going to be hard but good for him.
So another development in my life is that I no longer work for the school. It’s a long story and maybe I will go back to the beginning. I have mentioned on here that I have toyed with the idea of getting a different job because I needed to make more money. With inflation and everything going on, our one full time income wasn’t cutting it. After our summer vacation two years ago, we got into some serious debt, mostly credit card and we were paying the minimum each month and with the interest and purchases each month it was just getting bigger and bigger and it felt like this constant weight. On top of that, my husband is maxed out on how much he can make and so the burden fell on my shoulders.
I tried to look at some jobs with basic American food and melaleuca, two places close to me and nothing really popped out. I also looked for some kind of secretary work but nothing really panned out. I don’t know if I mentioned also that for the past year I have been working for my dad doing some real estate stuff. He has paid for this program that generate leads of people that are possibly wanting to sell. Most of the people were interested in finding out the value of their home but they didn’t want to sell. It was hard sometimes to face so much rejection but it really helped us financially to have that extra income this past year. I do not know where we would be without my parents.
So anyway, my dad talked to me at the beginning of the year and said that it just wasn’t going to work out anymore for me to keep working for him. I was so sad but told him it was okay and I was going to keep looking for something different.
So one day, I was on social media and a pop up came up about doing a cash out refinance loan on your home where you have gained equity and you could barrow more money than you owe and get cash out. I had a feeling to ask my dad about it and he directed me to a similar but different loan called a HELOC. We were able to apply and get approved for this loan and it has been a blessing. I was able to pay off one credit card completely and get the other two down considerably.
After talking to my dad about this loan, he mentioned to me if I wanted to go back to work for the company I worked for when the kids were little. It had never really crossed my mind to do this, but when he brought it up, I felt like maybe. My dad told me that he was going to reach out to the boss and let me know.
That week, I got a call from the boss and told me that they were interested in having me come back to work for them. The HR person reached out to me and gave me the starting salary and it is such a blessing. I will be making a lot more that I have been making and I am going to be working from home. I have to go from working 18 hours a week to 40 hours and that is going to be a huge adjustment but I have a 13 hour time from each day from 6am-7pm, so get the 8 hours in, so I will be able to keep my appointments with my dietitian and therapist and I am grateful for that.
I started a soft work this past week; I was given a laptop and two computer monitors and I decided to set up my system in Macy’s room. That is another story in itself that I will come back to in a little bit. So I started Wednesday with a quick meeting with the COO of the company. She is a woman that I worked with before and is just the sweetest. Most of what I did the last three days was reading the manual, watching videos, reviewing forms and reading more books. I will do this for another few days and then I will keep working up to doing what I was doing before I stopped. I am very grateful for the opportunity I have to provide more for my little family and be able to do it from the comfort of my own home.
So the other new development in our family is, the girls now have their own rooms. So my husband and I have been married for almost 15 years and during that time, we very rarely slept in the same room. For the first few years before we had kids, I would end up awake a lot of the night or end up sleeping on the couch. I tried to wear ear plugs but it didn’t help all that much and then once we had the kids, I didn’t wear them. So anyway, he sleeps with a cpap now and he had his surgery to fix his deviated septum at the end of last year. So anyway, we talked about how the girls would benefit from their own rooms, but I didn’t want to give up my space and share a room with someone. I know I have been a hindrance in our relationship and everything but its just what I have wanted. So we decided that we would give it a go.
We asked Macy if she wanted to move downstairs but she said no; but Sally said sure. So we moved everything around; I went though all of my stuff to make room for his. I was able to get 8 or so bags of stuff to donate and then my husband and the kids were able to get more bags too. I think we had 12 in all. So much stuff gone and I was able to get it down to wear my husbands stuff fits in our room.
We got Macy a bigger bed, so that when someone comes to visit, they will have her room. There are still things that I would like to do, like paint the rooms and get a new dresser for Macy, but I will most likely wait until I get a couple of paychecks.
Something else that is nice is I am going to be paid biweekly instead of once a month. So I will be paid every two weeks, and then my husband will have his pay once a month. I really hope we can save some up and just be careful.
I am trying to think about what else has happened; Teddy and Macy have been playing basketball. Teddy is a stud and a baller and Macy is trying super hard and learning a lot.
We had a ward valentines day party and it was nice. Not to many people went and each person brought a ton of deserts, but the night was cool. I did end up being home a pretty much whole sheet cake but that’s okay. We played some games and did some music trivia. At my table we had a guy who is very musically talented and we won, haha!!!
O there is something else that is a new development. We were finally able to get in for the final report about Sally’s testing that was done in December. They said she shows some indicators of autism but it was more than likely something different. She met with a counselor a few years ago that diagnosed her with ODD. It stands for Oppositional Defiant Disorder and I could see that on occasion but really only for me. I think she had ODDFM-for mom.
Well the doctor told me that the indicators for the testing showed that she had major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety. He said that sometimes the symptoms for ODD and MDD present the same. He told me that sometimes therapy can help but other times medication to help stabilize the mood can help as well. I am waiting for them to mail me the paperwork and then I am going to set up an appointment with her primary care doctor to see if we can try some medication. I need to also see which provider to see, when we normally go to the doctor we see one of the NP or PA. There are a couple of DO in the office, so maybe when I call, ill see which one might be best. I hope that this is the right action to take and it could possibly help her.
I was able to get my teeth whitened and that was cool; I found a girl through Instagram and went and got it done. It’s a subtle change, but I like it.
